7 Big Lessons I Learned about Manifesting

When I first sat down to create the self-guided programs in the Manifest Like a Goddess Experience, I had some ideas about what it would look like. And today, it looks nothing like that initial idea.

My initial vision was an 8-week online course that would help people eliminate common blocks that keep them from creating the life of their dreams and provide the tools to manifest those dreams into reality.

From then to now, that idea has blossomed into a six-month full immersion experience with four distinct programs and 24 modules. It includes everything I’ve learned – most times the hard way.

While I “logically” understood the concepts I wanted to share with my clients, it wasn’t until I fully lived out certain life experiences during the manifestation process that I actually understood it within the fiber of my being.

In order to create a program of this caliber, I needed to learn each lesson first-hand. It took me 24 weeks of trial and error and lesson-learning before I was ready to offer something this special.

I’m going to share with you some of the lessons I learned experientially, while manifesting this program into existence.

Lesson #1: Linear Time Is Irrelevant

During the creation process, I was reminded me over and over again that linear time means nothing in the manifesting process. Often times, the universe knows what you want better than you do, and amazing creations do not happen overnight.

I continued to open myself up to inspiration and found ways to expand my vision while moving in unison with divine timing. This helped me to actually bend time and accomplish my goals with complete focus.

In our third-dimensional reality, we experience linear time. But in other realities, time is not linear, it is fluid.

If I had taken complete control of this process, I would have had an eight-week online course completed pretty quickly. And while it would have served those seeking guidance on some level, it would not be nearly as comprehensive nor would it be as transformative of an experience as it is today.

Lesson #2: Take Inspired Action

Four weeks into the creation process, my marriage fell apart. I found myself deeply entrenched in a dark night of the soul experience that lasted for six full weeks. Seemingly, nothing of any importance was accomplished during this time. Actually, it felt like I was moving backwards, and I even felt like I had no right to create a coaching experience on manifesting if I couldn’t get it right myself.

I didn’t recognize the value of this experience until after it was over.

In those six weeks, I allowed myself to rest, and followed my intuition, which told me that right now is not the time for creating. I must first release the pain of old, buried wounds that would inevitably get in my way and quite possibly destroy my ability to move my life in the direction it needed to go.  

I realized that I was indeed manifesting. I was co-creating with the universe to clear away everything that was no longer serving me. I’m incredibly loyal, and at that time I never would have ended my marriage, which was incredibly toxic.

I trusted the process and felt my way through all of it.

Pain is a part of life. Suffering is a choice. Moving through the pain is the best gift you can give yourself. I did not pull up my big girl pants and put a smile on my face. I instead allowed myself to feel every single ounce of pain that was coming up.

Emotion is energy in motion. It serves as our internal radar system that there is something going on within that we must pay attention to.

Stuffing pain creates thick walls that you only have to break down later by doing the inevitable. Moving through the pain.  

Once that phase completed, the space opened up again for me to create. And I had so much more of myself to give.

Lesson #3: Release What No Longer Serves You

I had to become very brave and release the people, places and things that were not serving my highest good. I had to settle the indecision within myself by accepting all the parts of me that wanted different things. I had to honor those parts of me so I could come into wholeness.

Once you’re whole, there are no more decisions to make, only actions to take.

I watched karmic cycles come to completion. I cleared the space and got ready for the next inspired action.

When you make room for all the things you’ve asked for, the universe will bring them swiftly into your reality. And if you don’t make room for what you’ve asked for, the universe will do it for you.

The act of releasing is a powerful practice. When you release negative beliefs, a bad habit, negative self-talk, goals you may have outgrown and situations that are not serving your highest good, you make room for what you’ve asked for.

Lesson #4: Don’t Settle For Scraps

The universe will bring signs into your life that are actually tests.

Sometimes, the signs you receive are clues to let you know that source has heard you and is working alongside you to help you manifest your desires, and your patience is being requested.

But sometimes, you are being tested to see if you really want what you’re asking for. When something wonderful that looks similar to what you have been trying to manifest comes into your life, you have to decide if it is the real thing. If it’s not, you have to be willing to let it go for something better. I call these signs the beta test.

Beta tests are not a punishment form the universe. They are simply making sure you are ready for what you’ve asked for. You must not settle until you get it.

Often, we misinterpret the beta test for the real thing. It’s up to you to decipher. You do this by studying what has manifested in your reality and deciding if it is exactly what you want, or better. If it’s not, then you must decline and know the real thing is right around … the corner.

Lesson #5: Trust That The Universe Has Your Back

Even if you think you’ve screwed up the manifesting process, know that you received exactly what you needed in order to grow in whatever way that was necessary for you receive your desires.  

We are in a time-space reality based on polarity and contrast. We learn what we want based on experiencing what we don’t want. All of your experiences have been necessary in order for you to become very clear about what life experience you actually want to manifest in your life.  

Clarity is the only way you can manifest exactly what you want into reality.

We are always co-creating with the universe, because we are a part of the whole of All That Is. We cannot create alone, because nothing is created alone.

The universe will always have your back because you are an extension of source consciousness. It is you, and you are it.  

You must choose over and over again to trust that the universe has your back, even when it’s hard. This does not mean you sit back and do nothing to set your goals in motion. The universe cannot do it all. You have to work as hard as you want the universe to work for you. But don’t try to control the process.

Instead, get curious and take inspired action. You do not need to have it all figured out. You cannot know all of the wonderful treats the universe has in store for you, nor would you want to. Wonder represents the beauty of co-creation.

Lesson #6: Love Your Shitty Work

The eight-week program I wanted six months ago would have been pretty damn good. But it would have been nothing as awe-inspiring as what was eventually created. Next to what I have now, it would look shitty.

As my dad would say – “It’s all relative.”

When I say “Love your shitty work,” I don’t mean that you should create an attachment to a particular outcome. If I had been attached to what I originally created, I wouldn’t have been able to let it go for something better. And it kept getting better and better – and better.

I knew it was finished when all my doubt was erased, which came from the practice of trusting my inner voice. I wanted it to be ready much sooner, but I let go of my expectations and my expectations were exceeded one hundred-fold.

Lesson #7: Just Begin

It doesn’t matter how you begin, as long as you begin. It does not matter if you don’t know how you will see your desires unfold, or which steps to take first. You only need to take one step, and then another – and know “what” it is that you want and “why” you want it.

The “how” is none of your business.

And the more you can detach from the outcome, the better. Human beings cannot predict exactly how the future will unfold. All of life is a journey, and when the journey is over, you go back to being the pure, divine spirit you are with the full recognition of your connection to everything.

So go ahead and play with the universe. If you are willing to play with it, it will play with you, and give you everything you’ve wanted, deep down.

You can read more about my manifesting journey in my book, “Manifest Like a Goddess.”

And if you’re ready for a deep dive into manifesting, you can sign up for the Manifest Like a Goddess Experience here.

 Love and light,