What If It Wasn’t Yours to Carry?
How Family Constellations Helped Me Heal Hidden Patterns in My Life and Relationships
For years, I kept encountering the same cycles.
The same emotional triggers. The same misalignments in my romantic partnerships. The same aching confusion in my family dynamics. Even with all the inner work I’d done — the therapy, the journaling, the shadow work — certain patterns just wouldn’t move.
Then I found Family Constellations.
Or maybe… the Knowing Field found me.
❂ What Is Family Constellations?
Family Constellations is a profound healing modality that reveals the hidden dynamics in our family systems — the energetic entanglements, inherited beliefs, unresolved trauma and unconscious ancestral loyalties that shape how we love, relate and live.
It’s not therapy.
It’s not role play.
It’s not storytelling.
It’s a field of resonance — often called the Knowing Field — where collective healing happens through deep presence, intuitive insight and sacred witnessing.
It is well known among practitioners that this work heals seven generations backward and seven generations forward. And after what I’ve experienced, I believe it.
❂ What I Discovered
When I experienced my first constellation, I didn’t go alone.
I brought two family members. None of us received our own constellation that day — we were simply there as representatives for other people’s stories.
But what happened in that room changed everything.
As we spoke and moved through the field, each of us felt like we were speaking directly to our own family members — even though we were playing roles in someone else’s constellation.
We cried. We connected. We walked out knowing something in us had shifted — without needing to “do” anything at all.
That was the moment I understood:
You don’t have to be the focus to receive healing. You just have to show up.
Since then, I’ve experienced and witnessed:
Long-strained family relationships softening without confrontation
Unexpected emotional release in friendships and romantic connections
A deeper sense of peace and clarity in the way I relate to myself and others
Healing in others, even when I was the only one who did the work
Because when you clear what’s inherited, you reclaim what’s truly yours.
❂ Why It Works (Even If You Don’t “Understand” It)
You don’t have to explain your pain to heal it in this space.
You don’t have to revisit every memory.
You don’t even need to speak.
The field knows.
The body remembers.
And healing unfolds in ways the mind could never orchestrate.
❂ You Don’t Have to Carry It Anymore
If you’re repeating emotional patterns that feel bigger than you …
If you feel blocked in your purpose, your relationships or your ability to receive …
If you’ve done “all the work” but something still isn’t moving …
This work might be the missing piece.
Family Constellations changed me — not just internally, but relationally.
It gave me back pieces of myself I didn’t know I’d lost.
It helped me understand my family without needing to fix them.
It allowed me to love from a place of truth, not obligation.
The Process:
Essentially, Family Constellations is a guided healing session where we bring an issue forward, uncover what’s operating beneath it and energetically shift the family system.
We begin each online constellation session with a powerful guided meditation to ground ourselves and set clear intentions.
From there, two participants are randomly selected (except nothing is random) to bring forward an issue they’d like to explore. The rest of the group is intuitively chosen to serve as representatives—not as actors or performers, but as energetic anchors within the family field.
As the constellation unfolds, we witness a living map of the family system emerge, revealing hidden dynamics, generational entanglements and unresolved grief.
Through subtle repositioning, presence and compassionate witnessing, the system begins to reorganize itself toward harmony.
Even those who are not selected to bring an issue forward find themselves profoundly impacted by the resonance of the field—receiving insights, emotional shifts and deep healing.
Even if you’re not “chosen” for a constellation during the session, the Knowing Field still works for you, in ways I could never fully explain here. You must have the experience in order to know what is possible for you.
Participants report unexpected yet profound clarity, deep emotional release or feeling seen in someone else’s story. Then, the shifts begin to occur in their outer world.
Why? Because we’re all connected. Yes, our stories are different, but our wounds are the same. And it is possible to change the story.
Your ancestors are present in the session, holding space for these wounds to heal because they never wanted you to carry their burdens … only their love.
❂ Join Me on July 13
I’m opening a sacred container for our next Group Ancestral Healing Circle on Sunday, July 13 from 1–4:30 PM Eastern (held live on Zoom).
We’ll work in the Knowing Field to reveal and release what’s ready to heal.
There is space for 15 participants. Two people will receive full constellations, and the rest will serve as representatives or observers — which, as I’ve experienced firsthand, is often just as transformative.
❂ Testimonials
“I believe Family Constellations is the most important and powerful work on the planet at this time. I received instant healing and transformation within myself and also saw that reflected later within my relationships with my immediate family and also with my Mom. The rapid healing is priceless. Thank you for this radically life-changing experience.”
- Rhonda B.
“THIS WORKS! I am a therapist and it is REALLY difficult to get out of my head to examine my own narrative. It never ceases to amaze me that Family Constellations is always revelatory. And I’m happy that intricate details are not necessary and the “knowing field” simply is ... and that is all the truth that is required, even when simply observing another person's process. My heart was open and the messages were very clear.”
- A. Pope
“I feel honored to have witnessed the deep healing, insight and shifts that are unfolding for each of us. You created a space where generations could be seen, patterns can change and the unseen come to light. Thank you for holding us with such care, compassion and wisdom. Your work is powerful and deeply appreciated.”
- Katie L.
“Family Constellations works repeatedly and powerfully, and vividly showed me how present-day challenges can be traced back to decisions made well before our time (that were beyond our control). It offers us an avenue to process those challenges and even address them in a genuine and grounded way. I still think about how the issues that we worked on – which at first seemed so unique and different from person to person – so often revealed themselves to be manifestations of similar soul wounds. Family Constellations offers a path to addressing and perhaps even overcoming soul wounds with the love and support of a community.
I recommend this modality to others who are willing to be trusting and vulnerable inside a small community to explore issues, among a group of beautiful, loving and healing-oriented souls.”
- Jeff K.
If you feel the call to step into this field, click here to register or you can reach out to me directly with any questions you have.
You don’t have to do this alone. You only have to say yes to healing what no longer belongs to you.
With reverence and wild grace,
